my-view-on-family-values-in-China-and-America.docx

MyViewonFamilyValuesinChinaandAmericakatheeFamilyisthe11>oslIundamentalunitofsociety.Andtoatargeextent,familyvaluesarethemostdree!reflectionofsocialvalues.Astousall.Chinesecultureistherepresentationoftheorientcivilization.WhiieAmericancuttureiskindofmixlureofwesterndvilizatio11s.DifferencebetweenthetwoculturesbringsthegreatdifferencesonfamilyvaluesAfterstudyingandreadingmaterials.Isupposethatth©maindifferencesareconcerning<hic.educationandmarriage.AStoethic,IreckonthatChinesefamilyputgreatcmas<sonemotionandIamityhierarchy.weAmericanspreferdemocracyandfreedom.EmotionisthesymboloftheChinesefamily.It'stheconnectionofthe央悦ICmemebers.leadingthemtoCarOabouttherelativesandmakeCOntnbUIiOnStothefamily.ThedesireofgoingbackhomemakesuptheChineselife.Therearetwomostfamousphenomenons.OneistheSpringFestivaltravel,whichrepresentsIhetraditionalfamilyvalueofgathering!,Andtheotherisvisitngfamilymcmb<s,gravesandchoos*ngtobeburiedinone'shometown.AnothercharacteristicofChinesefamilyisthehierarchythatalmembersnatural/observe.Thegenerationswithhighstatusarerespectedandcarefullyk>okedafterdunngtheroldage.AndtheyUnconditionatyspendlargeamountsoftimeandmoneytomaketheircdrenandgrandchildrengrowuphappyandliveahighqualitylife.BUtIhSgSarequ«le(MterentinIheAmericanfamily.TheybelieveatheClfortsshouldbopaidback.InCiUdinglove.SothechildmustdosomethingfortherPafCnlSonceheneedsmoneyfromhisparents.Besides.Amehcansstressondemocracy,justiceandreason,whichmakesthemhaveavoiceinthefamtfyratherthanobeyingtheparents'wordsomattergatherthewordsar©rightTheydon'tregardthefamilyconnectionandbloodrelativesasthatimportant.AStoeducation.ChmcscparentsmakearrangementstorChiaOnwhileAmericanparentstotchildrenmakechoices.Educationisapartofculture.BeingaflectedbyConfuciansm.parentstreattheeducationofchildrenasthefutureofthemselives.evenrelatedtotheinterestofIhewo4efam".Theyusuallyforgettoconsiderth©ChWrensv/illings,andmake,pefct,plans.Onthentrary.AmericanparentstrytocultivateIheakxMiesofchasingtorselfinterest,suchastheablityotchoosgonone'sownandtheabilityofbctngresponsloforoosolf.wrcIthnkarethemostimportantthngsachildShoUkjteamforhisbetterfuture.Theydon'tstresstmuchonthegrades,andsupportchildrentodevelopth<hrinterests,torOXamPlCBillGatesdroppedoutofHarvardtodevelophiscomputercareer,whichmaynotbeallowedinaChinesefamiy.Hovvr.withthesocietydevelopmentandglobalization,moreandmoreChinesefamilyrealizeIhesignificanceofqualityeducation,andbegintotransformtherelationshipbetweenparentsandchildren.Astomarriage,themarriagerelationshipisoneofthemostvitalthingsduringonesMeintracftlionalChinesevalues,whileAmericansemphasiz©onequaityasWGiasindependenceanddon'ttaketmuchseriously.InChinesesociety,mamagesnotjustonesthing,butrelatedtothecple,sfamilies,morality,reputat>onaswellasrcsonsibiMy.Thecoup4caimtobuidaharmoniousunionfamily,insometimerequri11gthemtoabandonIheirOwnfilings.DuringaChinesefamity.membersteamtotolerate,toforgive,toadapttoothers,whichcanbeseenasahugeburden,makingmodemyoungpeoplefrhte11edtomarrysomebody.Also,thestofamarriageisbeyondafamiy'stoterance.BecauseoftheseriousimbalanceofIhesexratk).themalefamilymusthaveaWeIleconomiccocMotoattractthfemalefamily.ButthingsdillerintheUS.Americancoupleenjoyindependence,leavingeachocherenoughpnvateroomandneverinlervening.Theysiresonemotionalmmunicatontomaketheirlovefreshandstable,andIheyundertakeIhehouseholdandeducationolchildrentogether.Americansregardmarriageastheirownthingandnorelationwthmorality.Sooncethereistheothermanorwomansteppinginlotheirmarriage,theywlthinkmistakeshaveappearedinthemamageandgvceachotherachancetocooso.ratherthanfightorquarrellikeCinesccoupes.ngtotheindividualism.Amencanssdivorcerateistheghestalovertheworld.Aboveal.wecanIeamoftheobviousddferencesfamilyvaluesbetweenChinaandAmerica.ChineseadvocatelectivismMileAmericansadoreindividualism.Andthat'sthefundamentalreasonOIIbOdifferences.Wecantjudgewchvalue«$thebetter,butWCcanloamfromthetwo'sadvantagestobuildamoremodernandharmoniousfamily.